The INFJ and ENFJ types in Myers-Briggs do not describe the personality of any major god or goddess of whom I am aware.
Both the INFJ and the ENFJ are characterized by a strong commitment to compassion, doing the right thing, and serving others. The INFJ is often considered to be the perfect type for a member of the clergy. The ENFJ can be bossy (like my stepmother, who is a classic ENFJ), but he or she is motivated by a desire for justice, especially for those in need. The ENFJ is perfect as the CEO of a nonprofit.
So the Greek divinities, who reflect for the Greeks the capricious nature of reality, did not include in their number a classic pastor-leader, the champion do-gooder.
But there is a human couple that to me fit the bill: Odysseus (ENFJ) and Penelope (INFJ), the husband-wife team from Homer's Odyssey.
The personality of Odysseus is somewhat malleable in Greek mythology: in the Iliad he is a shrewd negotiator, strategist, and opportunist, and in Sophocles' Ajax, a Greek tragic drama, he comes off as wily but wimpy.
But in the Odyssey he is portrayed as having a tender heart, especially for getting home to his family again. In the beginning of the story, he seems to have a shell of bravado; he has bought into the Iliadic "Heroic Ideal" that glory is the most important thing in the world. But gradually-- this is his spiritual journey-- he returns to his spiritual roots as a family man.
But even for his men he has a deep compassion. Witness the moment he has to choose between Scylla and Charybdis: Charybdis is an engulfing whirlpool that will suck O. and his ships down to the bottom of the sea. Scylla is a dog-headed monster. If O. goes near her, he will lose six men to her six dog heads.
Odysseus shows real pain in having to make the decision to lose his men, and he tries all he can-- stands with drawn sword-- to see if he can defeat the monster. This is impressive compassion to me.
So Odysseus is a leader (E), a strategist (N), a compassionate person (F), and, moreover, a finisher of his journey (J).
Penelope shows a similar amount of intelligence and strategy: she is called by Homer periphron, which means in Greek "round-about minded," or "the one who has 360 degree perception." Or as Richmond Lattimore puts it, she is "circumspect," meaning prudent and shrewd, but also "looking" (spect) in a "circle" (circum).
Penelope is totally committed to Odysseus despite knowing that after 20 years away from her, he has to have met his end somehow. She has great feeling, as does Odysseus, for their only son Telemachus.
And Penelope is shy. Part of this is the typical Greek expectation that women must stay in their room, spinning wool into yarn. But she does not take charge as someone like Medea would (maybe you can guess her MB type), and when Telemachus grows into a man he orders her around.
Penelope is definitely an introvert, but she also longs for justice like Odysseus. She does not have the confidence to drive away the suitors who are laying waste to her house, but she secretly wants them taken care of. When Odysseus returns, a forceful presence returns also, and those suitors are toast, with Penelope's help, of course.
The INFJ and ENFJ can be the perfect couple, if they work together for a common goal. Penelope and Odysseus are among the very few married couples in Greek mythology who are true soulmates.
Here is a fascinating link concerning MB type relationships (beware, psychobabble ahead).
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